great. just great. another day designed to get guys in trouble or make us look dumb.
as if the commercials during the super bowl – or most commercials these days – weren’t enough. now this.
whose idea was this, anyway? i’ve been on wikipedia and the history channel website, and all i can find is that no one really knows who st. valentine truly was, what he did, or why he has an official catholic holiday on february 14!
a plot, i say! a plot by wives and girlfriends to get stuff. all that stuff they love. notice the symbols of valentine’s day? hearts? roses? chocolates? girly stuff! what kind of guy was this valentine dude? i’m just saying!
but here’s the saddest thing.
we need it.
sad but true. couples need valentine’s day. why? because we’re not doing the valentine’s day kind of thing all the time, like we’re supposed to. i don’t mean bulking up on sweets or buying unnecessary jewelry. i mean paying each other special attention. i mean being the love message instead of buying some cheesy card with one on it. i mean making sure that our spouse knows beyond the shadow of a doubt that he or she is the apple of our eye.
this goes for both husbands and wives, but since i’m a husband, you’re getting that slant. so guys, check this out – from God’s own Word, in proverbs 5…
Drink water from your own well—
share your love only with your wife.
Why spill the water of your springs in the streets,
having sex with just anyone?
You should reserve it for yourselves.
Never share it with strangers.
Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you.
Rejoice in the wife of your youth.
She is a loving deer, a graceful doe.
Let her breasts satisfy you always.
May you always be captivated by her love.
(did you know stuff like this was in the bible? pretty cool, huh?)
that woman? that woman God gave you? she’s it dude! she’s your one and only. any other woman? not yours! leave her alone. move on. don’t screw up the rest of your life, and the lives of a bunch of other people too (can you say fallout?) for some random and temporary romp. it’s not worth it.
and it’s not godly.
(and women, i think you know it goes without saying that this applies to you too. right?)
what IS godly is keeping the vows we made when we got married. what IS godly is learning the emotional needs of our husband or wife, and then meeting those needs.
good news here, guys, is that chocolate and jewelry aren’t usually on that list.
what is on the list are things like affection, sexual fulfillment, conversation, recreational companionship, honesty and openness, physical attractiveness, financial support, domestic support, family commitment, and admiration. (for more on this subject, click HERE).
do you know which of these tops the list of your husband or wife? you should. if you don’t, you’re already behind. and it takes a ton of chocolate to make up for not knowing.
so find out. that’s what i want you to do this valentine’s day.
guys, think of it! if we can get serious about this, we can put this unknown saint with his troublemaking holiday out of business.
and even better, i don’t think our wives will mind.